3 Ways to Practice Gratitude

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Peter and Olivia are a couple who still hold hands when they walk down the street, even though they’ve been married for more than two decades. They like each other’s company so much, and prioritize date nights every month, so they are sure to spend quality time together. 

In their own words, they “have a good thing going,” and they attribute this all to being truly grateful for each other – and not being shy about saying so. 

In our experience as couples therapists, this is a point that most couples who come to see us actually lack. 

Tensions can grow when one (or both) partners are feeling unappreciated and undervalued. In contrast, a couple like Peter and Olivia thrive because they both feel important and respected in their relationship. 

Practice Gratitude 

Try these techniques to start showing some gratitude:

  • Give Thanks

    Sometimes, the easiest way to acknowledge your partner is just to say it! Even if it’s an everyday task like doing the dishes, tell your partner how much it means to you that you can count on them to help out with those chores.

  • Give Them a Break

    Words are important, but you can also let them know you appreciate that they always take care of the dishes by taking the task on yourself. Giving them this short break shows how much you value their time and what they do to keep the household running.

  • Give a Compliment

    If they look great that day, tell them. If they tell a funny joke, laugh, and let them know you think they’re hilarious. Whatever it is that makes them special, make sure to tell them.

Offering compliments and thanks are key in creating harmony with your partner. However, don’t also neglect the importance of your actions to validate what you’re saying. Tell your partner you’re grateful for them, and show them as well.

You might just end up holding hands and going on dates even after you’ve been married for 20 years.

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